Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you’ve probably heard about the hottest new books, the 50 Shades trilogy. Chances are you’ve had friends who’ve raved about how much they loved the books or how much they hated them. The series is being called ‘mommy porn,’ ‘Twilight for grown-ups,’ and ‘pure smut.’ Take ’em or leave ’em, they are selling like hotcakes and people, especially women, can’t seem to get enough.
Why do women love them so much?
- They love the idea of a super-wealthy man and his stalker-like attraction to a recent college graduate.
- Many women say the novels are spicing up their sex life and reminding them there is more to sex than just plain ‘vanilla.’
- Sometimes, we just need a little fantasy in our life. Obviously, this would never happen in real life.
- This book gives women permission to evaluate their sex lives and talk about it with other people.
Why do women hate them so much?
- The writing is cheesy, simplistic, and gives people the wrong idea about real love.
- The books are based on the Twilight series and originated as “Master of the Universe” with Edward and Bella characters. If you didn’t like Twilight, you probably won’t like these books.
- Are women really turned on by a control freak with mommy issues?
- Why would any woman accept such violent and manic behavior from a lover?
In case you haven’t read them, here is a quick summary, with a few spoilers, so don’t read ahead if you really don’t want to know more. The main character, Ana, meets Christian, and he immediately begins stlaking her. He sets out a contract because he wants to have complete control over her, well, her sex-life, to be exact, but also what she eats, how much she works out, and what she wears. In a twist, he falls in love with her, and she cannot say no to him, no matter how much he freaks her out in the bedroom. She is a virgin and he is her first. Her “inner goddess” seems to enjoy the bondage, discipline, sadism, masochism (BDSM) lifestyle. She agrees to marry him less than two months after their first encounter and start a life with him.
Many women who are reading this book are reading erotica for the first time in their lives. The sex scenes are comparable to Penthouse letters and pornography. It is inevitable that young girls will read this book, because it is everywhere. Do we really want them thinking that this type of relationship is acceptable? You’ve probably seen how people, mostly teen girls and women, were/are caught up in the Twilight series. It became an obsession and they wanted a guy like Edward. (On a side note, he watches her sleep, isn’t that sort of creepy?) Why would women be OK with a girl who basically gives her life to a man to control?
The bottom line is the book is fantasy. If it spices up your sex life, good for you. If it sets you up to be dissappointed in your current relationship, think twice before you walk out the door to find your own Christian Grey. In real life, psycho men usually stay psycho and you don’t have to give up your life for love.
What do you think about this book? Does it make a relationship stronger or will it ruin your love life? Did you read these books? Will you?
